While over leaving a comment at Jay's blog, I realized that there is a subject I've yet to discuss here with y'all. Does having a male gender truly make someone (ie me) a man?
Does owning this
make someone a man?
Or can one be male/man without it?
Because men who have lost their penis due to injury or disease are still considered MEN. But what if one isn't born with one? Is it something more than physical characteristics, or is sense of self enough to be counted as male?
Trans folk have to come out twice to everyone. Once as trans, and then as to what sex you're attracted to. I've been asked by GLBT'ers before if I'm gay or straight and usually my answer is "yes".
"Yes. Meat suit girl is straight, cause she likes dudes. Gendered male me is gay, because I like dudes. So, yes."
But does having a male gender enough to be able to walk about calling oneself "gay"? What does being gay actually mean? Feeling romantic and sexual feelings towards one own sex. But my sex is female, only the gender half is male........
Round and round like a carousel,
One of the major malfunctions of modern society is the strict adherence of two sexes and genders. While there seems to be only two sexes, genders like sexuality come in a wide arc.
Kinsey helped the masses decide where they fall on the sexuality scale. I feel that a gender scale is needed as well. Boiling down feelings and expression would be far harder than what Kinsey invented, but classifications of gender is just as important.
Gender scales would not only help trans folks be more easily accepted, but would slacken the chains on people who are straight but perceived as being not, our gender expression brethren. Butchy girls, femme boys. Boys who don't like sports, roughhousing but dream nightly about pussy, pussy pussy. Girls who hate the kitchen but love the garage, the woodshop, and lust after guys. Those femme boys and butchy girls could now be considered "normal", not freak shows like now.
If humans were allowed to freely express both their true genders and sexualities, what changes would occur? I would imagine bullying incidents would drop dramatically, when one counts gender expression and sexuality only. Sadly we still have acres to go in reducing racial bullying, I'm looking at you GOP...... Would society stop stifling males emotions, allowing our boys and men to cry and express nurturing, allowing a disinterest in all things considered typically male without being labeled "a nancy boy"? Could girls finally stop equating their physical beings with their inner selves, and know that they are more than a pretty shell to look at, would that reduce women's unhappiness?
Which brings me back to what makes men, men and females, female? Is it more than our meat suit? Does what lies inside trumps the outer? Society lags behind on this conundrum, and I've yet to find a way off the carousel of what it means to be a man and a gay man at that.