What I was asking, what is it that makes a male, a Man. Is it solely the having of a male body? Can one be a man while living inside of a female body? This might be a tricky concept for gender/sex matching humans to understand, due to the fact you've never had the need to question where you lie within the male/female continuum. A time before your memories, you KNEW yourself to be male/female. Just like myself and other trans folk knew, the only difference is the entire world, including their bodies told them otherwise.
No, what I'm asking is more basic. If I were to show up in my girl suit to a gay men's group would/should I be accepted? What are societies rules about claiming to be a man, but not looking nor sounding a thing like a man?
Sexuality is yet another question. Merriam Webster defines homosexual thusly:
1: of, relating to, or characterized by a tendency to direct sexual desire toward another of the same sex2: of, relating to, or involving sexual intercourse between persons of the same sex
Technically, I'm straight as my sex is most definitely unarguably female. Wikipedia mentions gender with sex in its description of homosexuality. I'm going with the wiki definition, as it fits my world view.
I KNOW who and what I am, male and gay, what I'm asking is about validation and acceptance in society. There is a still a wide swath of GLB that hate up on all transgender humans. If I've read it once, I've read it thousands of times from both sides of the gender aisle about why the T is even included in GLB because they aren't a sexual minority. Honestly, from my side of the fence, the T's ARE a sexual minority, folk born within the wrong sex, and an even tinier minority than GBL's are. One thing that really hurts T's within GLBT groups, is that many of them categorically refuse to define their sexuality, straight, gay, bi, lesbian or asexual. What's the major malfunction in labeling who excites you sexually?
At the core of my questionings is what is it that defines the state of being male, or female? What makes a male a man?