Well, 'tis been quite the while yeah? A month, at least it wasn't a month of Sunday's, yeah? So, what have I been up to in that month?
Last year when TH's medical odyssey began he told them he had pains running down his legs, and that his foot at times would go numb. However, his neck was in such a shape, the docs all ignored the leg issue and went to work on his neck. Now that his neck is AOK, he's feeling the pain in his legs quite a bit more. A trip to the doctor, an MRI later and yup, he has the same issue in his lower back that he did in his neck, only thankfully not as extreme. And so he will be back in Arizona with me this winter, around November-ish for a new pony ride on the surgery circuit.
Which brought up the whole retirement discussion. He retired once already and he was a very unhappy fella, which made the rest of us very unhappy as well. TH turned walking into a job, if he didnt get out of the house right on the dot of 9 am he would shout at who ever made him late. Thats when 2nd son and I sat him down and gave him a choice of getting a job or swimming with the fishes. He got a job. But now its 7 years later, and hes wondering if he could retire again and this time be happy.
Because we are still paying off the previous two surgeries we decided to pack everything we want into a storage unit, junk off the rest and not renew the lease and be out by December 1st. We got rid of an entire truck full of stuff, and really should have weeded better, but after a while it becomes overwhelming to go thru all of ones belongings and decide "keep, donate or trash?" And just have the apartment in Arizona while he heals. If he decides to return to work, he'll get a new apartment then. This will save us an enormous amount of money. Hopefully with the cheap living expenses down here, we can get the old surgeries and the new paid off. And???? Because one of the surgeries was in this calendar year, most of this one should be paid for by the insurance! w00t!!!!
Third son and his wife had a beautiful baby boy this summer. What does he look like? Think Gerber baby with coal black hair and blue eyes. Hes a perfect blend of both mommy and daddy, they are the prettiest couple ever. Yes, I am a mite on biased side. Three days before I was supposed to fly back to Arizona, my phone rang and it was the son and his wife. She was going back after being off for maternity leave and her babysitter was in the hospital. This poor girl managed to slam her thumb in the car door, and within 3 days the thumb had gone septic! After an involved surgery, getting a dose of MRSA, and a week in the hospital she was ready to come home, whew! But her poor hand wasnt up to the task of caring for a 10 lbs infant, so I took up the slack and stayed on for another week to help out.
Oh my! It was wonderful to get to know this new wee soul! He is sure a treasure, and that week was worth all the gold, ever mined! But, it did make us sad. TH and I are welcomed into his life, whereas we werent really welcomed into our granddaughters life. It honestly feels like this is our first grandchild.
And speaking of eldest, somehow he slipped up and they are expecting again, sigh. And even worse? She wants a divorce ASAP and is making son's life a living hell. What bothers me however is what it is doing to their daughter. She was a bubbling wee slip of a girl, but is very subdued now. Son is super unhappy, so much so that his walk is unhappy sounding, rather a plod than a walk. He's afraid the courts will side with her and he'll never get to see her again. I dont believe it, anyone who knows them, knows that Son does most of the caring for his daughter ever since her birth.
I came back to Arizona early this year because TH is planning on spending all of his weekends out hunting and camping. Leaving me alone, and very lonely. As it is during his work week, I see him at the most 1.5 hours a day, thats when he's slept well, on a bad day, its 40 minutes. So, why stick around for 4 hours? He can call me from hunting camp like usual, the only difference is I'm not in Alaska.
Monday I start back with Table Talk and on Wednesday at the library proper doing pull holds and discharging materials. My calendar is already filling up with lunches and outings and dinners with friends, it feels nice to be missed!
Oh! And while wandering around the Seattle airport I came across this sign, and it is a sign of the times!