tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-104010073273981465.post4507633875111423839..comments2023-10-12T05:11:00.385-07:00Comments on the camouflaged man: Shadow of the DayBiki Honkohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06731335682679434307noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-104010073273981465.post-15303621923757411092010-03-03T13:09:51.836-08:002010-03-03T13:09:51.836-08:00Hey Biki
Glad you posted this I know you needed to...Hey Biki<br />Glad you posted this I know you needed to let this out. I have serious doubts about the value of therapists in general having been under the care of 2 psychiatrists as a teenager both of whom managed to miss the problem and the point entirely and actually made things worse, if you can believe that!<br /><br />TH has got to start talking about this sometime and I really think he has to talk to you. I hope it starts happening really soon.<br /><br />Love<br />MacMalcolmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16750431202226062206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-104010073273981465.post-26322224398402051292010-03-03T02:09:48.653-08:002010-03-03T02:09:48.653-08:00Pete and I can get into ruts so we each have devel...Pete and I can get into ruts so we each have developed a technique for getting the other moving again and yes, it never happens without a lot of screeching and grinding as the brakes come off!<br /><br />Since I'm British I don't hold with counsellors or advice folk. I've known some people who do it professionally and their own lives . . . (ugh!)not a good ad!<br /><br />Give him time and don't change the way you (or the boys) relate to him. I believe you can stretch your soul through your blog and the internet.<br /><br />You sure do live in a remote place compared to most of us so I can't say stuff like 'you should get out more!' which would probs help coz then you could fizz all over lots of other people in order to be calm and loving later back home.<br /><br />So make good use of the net. I keep finding soulmates and I love the interactions we get together.<br /><br />Private emails and chatting can work wonders!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-104010073273981465.post-53880284482554292232010-02-28T11:09:37.648-08:002010-02-28T11:09:37.648-08:00Biki - sorry to hear about this. Maybe he has an ...Biki - sorry to hear about this. Maybe he has an adjustment period to go through. Maybe these are just bumps in the road, and everything will work out shortly. IDK.<br /><br />My wife and I have similar issues. Even though we're splitting up - we want to remain friends, so it's important to me that we maintain a relationship. But sometimes it's too hard for her. It comes in waves, and eventually dissipates. She does seek help from a therapist - and that can be hit or miss. They don't seem to understand what she's going through - but that's probably just an issue with her therapist.<br /><br />I hope things improve for you and T.H. <br /><br />-nlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-104010073273981465.post-85682383727499600862010-02-27T21:19:26.385-08:002010-02-27T21:19:26.385-08:00It amy not be much comfort, but you still have a b...It amy not be much comfort, but you still have a better relationship with TH than I have with the wife and I think we can hold it together. The trick is, will it be pleasant?<br /><br />RDodgerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00773201332167532206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-104010073273981465.post-12864771005741986202010-02-27T15:31:04.851-08:002010-02-27T15:31:04.851-08:00Sorry to hear about all this. Maybe this will soun...Sorry to hear about all this. Maybe this will sound strange, but in a way, from what I understand, you have a good balanced view. And with it comes the ability to find reasonable ways out of the maze, and to solve issues. <br />The relation I'm in is sometimes fluctuating, a lot. However there's always a way. Somewhere. Eventually.<br /><br />That's the only advise I can give to you... and you probably shouldn't take much notice of it anyway as I tend to screw up.<br /><br />Keep faith!<br /><br />Love<br />DanielAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com