tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-104010073273981465.post3939480610781364517..comments2023-10-12T05:11:00.385-07:00Comments on the camouflaged man: tick........tick......tick...tick..tick.tickBiki Honkohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06731335682679434307noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-104010073273981465.post-192458301427524522010-06-21T21:05:05.072-07:002010-06-21T21:05:05.072-07:00:-( Alas, I have no answers for you either.
::Hu...:-( Alas, I have no answers for you either.<br /><br />::Hugs::Aekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12183623849361560922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-104010073273981465.post-33870843239958052222010-06-21T09:41:40.783-07:002010-06-21T09:41:40.783-07:00Hi Biki -
I'm very glad that your children wa...Hi Biki -<br /><br />I'm very glad that your children want to help you in your time of need. Obviously, they love you very much and don't want to see you hurt. <br /><br />I can relate to losing a marriage over become one's true self. Its painful. And I can understand how the "switch is flipped" - and it becomes unclear if you can turn back. These are the exact feeling I had 8 months ago. <br /><br />So what is it that we love about a person? Their hair, their smile, their physical strength or tenderness? Or is it their laughter, their wit, their soul, their inner beauty? I guess it's both. I think it's difficult for us to get past someone's physical attributes and see the inner person, if we're not attracted to them first. <br /><br />How does that come into play when one partner changes physically? I have no idea. I suppose that gender and masculinity / femininity is a big part of the equation. I think that when we see physical changes in a person - we think the the person inside has changed, too. If we feel that the change goes outside of what is acceptable to us, it can be hard to digest.<br /><br />And you probably have changed, on some levels. Maybe he's not able to reconcile with that. But then again - don't we all change over the course of a relationship? Are my parents the same people they were when they got married 50 years ago? Probably not. I suppose it's just harder for some to accept the changes that come. <br /><br />I hope he does come to accept the changes - and that you two can both be happy together. I also hope your children fully support you through everything life throws at you - and suspect they will.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />-nlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com